Beginner's Dildos

What Is a Beginner Dildo?

While purchasing your first dildo can be a confusing experience, it can also be very fun, new, and exciting! Whether you are a teen starting to masturbate, or you are in a serious relationship looking to spice things up in the bedroom; a beginner dildo can not do any harm.

A beginner dildo is for those who are just starting out because they are smaller than other options. This makes it easier to play with, including complete penetration with either vaginal or anal sex. There are many choices to make when it comes to a beginner dildo as well.

You can choose the material you would like, such as silicone, glass, color, or if you want the dildo to vibrate as well.

How to Use a Dildo as a Beginner

Experimentation may be awkward at first, but the more we know about ourselves, the better sex will be in the long run with a partner or solo. Using a dildo is easy and pretty straight forward. The most important things to remember are to only do what you are comfortable with, practice makes perfect, and lubricant makes everything a lot easier.

Vaginal Penetration

Vaginal penetration with a beginner dildo is very easy, and you should not have a problem at all. Keep in mind these dildos are made for this, and you should not be nervous about experimenting. When you first try using your dildo, make sure you warm yourself up first by doing some foreplay. The foreplay will get you wet and, in the mood, to experiment. Now, even though you are wet, lubricant is still recommended.

Once you are finally inside, you can start to experiment with different speeds and rhythms. You can also start trying different positions with your beginner dildo to find what makes you feel best.

Anal Penetration

Beginner dildos are also great for anal sex. They are small enough to start off with but remember that you should always experiment with other anal toys before a dildo. You can use small butt plugs or even fingers. The biggest thing with anal penetration is that the anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina.

Therefore, you will need plenty of lubricant. It is recommended that you not only lubricate, the anus, but also lubricate the dildo as well. This will allow everything to glide much easier.

How to Clean Your Dildo

If you are new to the sex toy world, figuring out how to clean your dildo can be a daunting task. You want to make sure to sanitize everything so there is a lesser chance of any infections. Thankfully, when you purchase a new sex toy, it usually comes with instructions on cleaning the dildo.

However, this is not always the case. If your dildo does not come with instructions, there are a few things you can do to make sure your dildo is clean and sanitized.

Sex Toy Cleaner

If you are purchasing your beginner dildo from an online sex store, you may find the option to add a sex toy cleaner to your cart. This is always a smart idea. Sex toy cleaners are formulated to not only clean dildos but to deodorize them as well.

Each formula is different, so make sure you read the bottle to find out how long you should let the solution sit on the dildo. Rub the product vigorously on the toy to make sure you get it in all the nooks and crannies.

Always check the ingredients when it comes to sex toy cleaners.

Specifically, make sure there is no fragrance if you can not handle it. Some vaginas can be extremely sensitive, and while you may not be spraying the product right on the vagina, it will still be there the next time you go use it.

Soap and Water

Soap and water are a classic. It is recommended that you actually do not use antibacterial soap, but rather a clear, unscented soap. Rinse the dildo with hot water and scrub the soap on the dildo vigorously. Rinse with hot water and make sure the dildo is completely dry before putting it away.

Soap can leave a residue, so you may want to boil the toy after using it a few times. Just look for a white faded residue, and you will know it is time for heavier cleaning.

Bleach

While the thought of bleach can be scary due to its chemical properties, it can actually be good for disinfecting dildos. Run a sink full of hot water with only about two tablespoons of bleach. Let the dildo sit for about twenty minutes to ensure that all germs have been eliminated.

After the dildo has sat in the solution, you can then rinse it off with running hot water and pat dry. Again, make sure the dildo is completely dry before putting it away.

Dishwasher

While this is not an option if you have kids at home that help with the dishes, the dishwasher can be a great cleaning tool for your dildos.

You can put the dildo on the top rack of your dishwasher, and the steam will kill all of the bacteria. However, you can not use this method with all dildos, specifically electric and not waterproof.

Condoms

If you do not want to spend a lot of time cleaning your dildo, using a condom may be for you. Putting a condom on your beginner dildo will help you avoid the mess that has to do with penetration. A quick rinse off is still recommended, of course but it removes the scrubbing and soaking.

Using a condom on your toy will also prolong its life, Without the excess friction, the material will last longer, and you will have a favorite toy for life.

What Are the Best Dildos for Beginners?

Small Dildos

Small dildos are the epitome of a beginner’s dildo. They are smaller which is perfect to use for someone who is just starting out because they will not hurt. As you get used to a smaller beginners’ dildo, you can then start using larger objects. Smaller dildos are usually less than 6 inches, which is about the average size of a man’s penis.

Quiet Dildos

Quiet dildos are perfect for those looking to masturbate without the whole house knowing or for couples who have kids. Really, they can be used for anyone, but you get the drift.

If you are a teenager and are just starting to masturbate, a quiet beginner’s dildo is perfect because it vibrates, but no one else will hear it outside of your room. You can experiment with what makes you feel great, and rest assured that no one will know a thing.

Even as a couple with kids, most kids hear something and immediately want to investigate what it is. Now you be calm knowing that your kids will not hear a thing, unless you moan too loud.

Silicone Dildos

Silicone is, without a doubt, the most common dildo you will find on the market. Silicone is soft and perfect for beginners because it is flexible and can feel like a real penis. You will not have to worry about hurting yourself like you would with glass or stainless-steel toys.

The only downfall to silicone dildos is that you cannot use silicone lube with them. This is because the silicone lubricant will start to deteriorate the materials of the dildo, which can lead to nooks and crannies we may not even see.

These nooks and crannies are breeding grounds for bacteria to grow. To avoid this, just use a water-based lubricant, and if you are using the dildo for anal play, just keep reapplying the lubricant.

What Are the Worst Dildos for First-Timers?

Glass Dildos

There seem to be some mixed opinions about glass dildos. On the positive side, they are obviously very smooth and have a great look to them. However, they are much harder than silicone dildos.

I would not recommend this as a beginner’s dildo for this reason! You can potentially hit the cervix, which can be very painful, and you would not want this to happen while you are just starting out.

Glass is very easy to clean and is great for temperature play, but if you are completely new to penetration, again, go for a different type. If you are having partner sex and are used to a penis, then go for it.

Thrusting Dildos

A thrusting dildo is definitely not for a beginner in the sex toy realm. Thrusting dildos are mechanically advanced and have an automatic thrusting function at the head of the shaft. They can either thrust, or just vibrate and, of course, have different speeds and variations.

However, if you are a beginner you will want to start off slow to see what positions you like and how much you can handle. Some women and men can only handle manual stimulation and not mechanical stimulation as it is too much.

After you get the gist of what you like with a plain, classic dido, you can then advance your toy collection and try a thrusting dildo if you would like. Again, some do move on their own, so you want to make sure you start with the lowest setting and then advance as you get more comfortable with the toy.

Anal Dildos

Anal dildos are on this list simply because you should not use dildos when starting anal. The anal muscles are victim of muscle memory and are used to having matter dispelled, and not penetrated. Therefore, it is recommended that you start off with smaller items if you want to try anal.

These include sex toys such as small butt plugs or fingers.

Of course, if you have already experimented with these other toys, then by all means, go ahead and try a small dildo. However, do not push it. Just because you have experimented with other items does not mean you should get the largest dildo on the market. Always start off small and then go up in size.

Again, when using a beginner’s dildo for anal sex, make sure you use plenty of lubrication to ensure maximum pleasure. It is best to try masturbating with the dildo first to make sure you know what you can handle and how much lubrication works for you.

You can also experiment with the motions and how hard to go. This is crucial for anal because you can then tell your partner what you like and try to make the experience as seamless as possible.

How to Buy a Dildo Discreetly as a Beginner

Are you scared to purchase your first dildo? You are not alone, especially if you are a teenager new to buying sex toys to experiment with. The thought of someone else opening your package or the name of the store being right on the box that is delivered to your home can be very embarrassing.

Thankfully, most suppliers of sex toys have already thought of this!

Almost all online suppliers have discreet shipping and billing. You can usually verify this information during the checkout process.

If you want to be extra careful, always add tracking to the package (some companies already include a tracking number), so you can see specifically what day the toy will be delivered. This way, you can plan to be there if you know the general time packages are usually dropped off.

Buying your first dildo can be a fun experience! Always make you choose a beginner dildo to get comfortable with toys, and then you can always advance. Do not cut right to the chase, and always do a little foreplay to truly make playing with a beginner’s dildo a memorable experience.

Do not forget that a beginner’s dildo can be used for any sex and sexual orientation, so it is a great inclusive sex toy. Be safe and have fun experimenting.

Hyatt SimonsFounder @ BestSexToys.com

Hyatt Simons is the lovely founder of BestSexToys.com. She's been in the industry of sex toys and erotica since 1999. She actively promotes new products for the sexually-active adult community by collaborating with various PR companies and marketing firms. Her drive for excellence and sophisticated taste has set the standard of BestSexToys. Ms. Simons loves traveling and spends hours browsing through the latest products at Amazon.

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Last Update: Dec. 16, 2024